Are relationships primarily for mutual support and understanding? Sexual pleasure? Financial efficiency? Healing? Personal growth?

If you don’t ask this fundamental question, how can you ever know if you’re succeeding?

Are your relationship goals the same or different from hers? Does it matter? Are they complementary? Synergistic? Incompatible? Flexible? Rigid? Changing?

Find out.

We tend to assume that romantic relationships exist to give us pleasure. If they don’t, we assume they’re broken. After all, it probably felt pretty good at the beginning right?

The good news is that yes, relationships do have the potential to offer us feelings of well-being. And that’s not all.

They also help us grow up. If we let them.

If your relationship is less than pleasurable, it is asking something of you. A difficult relationship is asking you to LET GO of something, or perhaps to go deeper INTO something. You can be certain that there is a powerful growth opportunity within the relationship that you will have a glimpse of when you are open (or desperate) enough to see it. And you’ll probably find it where it hurts the most.

If you will reframe your relationship challenges as opportunities, a world of new possibilities can emerge.