None of my relationships with girlfriends ended particularly well. I seemed to be cursed with issues that ran deep. After my divorce at age 32 broke me wide open, I was ready for a change.

My subsequent relationship journey offered me an extremely unwelcome year of sexual abstinence, and then a fiery affair that quickly turned into a full-on relationship and possibly the hottest hell yet. I hit rock bottom, relationally speaking. Misery, confusion, endless arguing… breaking up, then make-up sex in the same night… often. Broken furniture even!

Somehow we stuck through it. We did a couples workshop weekend. It’s hard to say if it really helped. We almost didn’t go back Sunday because so much shit got stirred up Saturday. We saw a counsellor a couple of times. I didn’t care for her much. Kim went back and the counsellor basically told her to leave me. She didn’t.

Obviously I’m not a bad guy, but it’s true I had relationship issues. All of my work and training as a coach and Hakomi therapist was against a relationship backdrop of drama, uncertainty and conflict. Except… there was a big shift at a certain point. A crack in the wall of dysfunction. What happened?

Well, we’d worked through a lot, found our way through somehow. We loved each other, that’s certain. And all the training I’d done had a serious effect on my own healing, self-discovery and personal growth. These were all contributing factors, but there was also a specific event that really catapulted the relationship (and my life) forward.

An outgoing and successful Coach was a participant in one of my training weekends and he invited me to an evening event that he hosted. Something about relationships - it was pretty vague. I went, and it changed my life. Well, not right away, but it planted the seed.

I got an introduction to a model of relationship called “Gender Synergy.”

Something really hit home and I started trying out the model with Kim. I didn’t tell her anything about it at first, I just did it. The results were immediate and remarkable.

Six months later I hired this coach, Jean-Pierre Leblanc, to mentor me and I immersed myself in the Gender Synergy model. I drank it up. He introduced me to David Deida’s books, especially “The Way of the Superior Man.” It was like coming home. I was a changed man.

Now I’m experiencing joy, satisfaction and a deep sense of accomplishment in my relationship that I never imagined possible. And there’s no compromise, no payoff. I get to be me, and Kim appreciates and respects me for who I am, because I’ve become someone better than who I was.

Gender Synergy has become a foundation of my work. It’s penetrated my whole life and improved me radically. That’s my wish for you too. That’s the hope. And I know it’s possible. As someone who’s chosen a career helping people change, I’m especially passionate about the transformative power of relationships. If you’re ready to step up and take responsibility for turning your relationship around or moving it forward in a big way, this site is for you.

Be the Change you Want.

Your Ally,

Coach Justice

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