I stumbled upon Wayne Levine’s BetterMen site recently while browsing men’s resources online. I shot him an email in support of his work and he quickly replied, then mailed me a copy of his book - Hold On To Your N.U.T.s: The Relationship Manual for Men.

I was a bit sceptical. With the squirrel on the cover and chapter titles like “Silence the Little Boy,” I half-expected a shallow, confrontational and possibly venomous approach to relationship issues.

However, Wayne’s depth of character, understanding and wisdom quickly becomes apparent. The writing is well grounded, humorous, and honest. The tools Wayne offers, while perhaps appearing simple or surface, actually open the door to a depth of experience that is profound: owning your Masculinity and using your masculine gifts to create a successful relationship, and ultimately a better world. He doesn’t use these words, he just tells you how to fix your relationship with simple directions that virtually any guy can understand and relate to. 

That is where this book totally succeeds: Wayne simplifies becoming a “Better Man” into a step-by-step program that has mass appeal to typical guys. You don’t have to be “deep.” Having done a lot of “inner work” is not a pre-requisite.

Hold On To Your N.U.T.s is certainly an invitation to depth and self-growth - accept the challenges in this book and you WILL deepen and grow - but in a truly masculine way, which is notably different from the feminine path. 

The potential exists (and my hope is) for this book to pave the way for more mainstream participation in the powerful Men’s Work that is happening around the world. With the feelings of shame, dis-empowerment, frustration and confusion that run rampant among men and boys today, it’s no easy task to convince them to step up and take responsibility for creating successful relationships with women and the world. Perhaps this book will make a difference. I know I’ll use it, in fact I already have.

Most guys won’t ask for directions until they’re completely lost. My advice? Buy this map at the first sign of trouble.