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Celebrate Your Woman: 4 (Easy) Steps to a Better Relationship
There’s something inspiring about her. Maybe it’s a big thing, maybe it’s small. There’s a moment that she does or says something, or a way she moves. Let go of your criticism for just a few minutes. What’s divine about your woman? What stirs you? Now choose to celebrate that. Celebrate it with a few deep, conscious breaths right now on your own. Celebrate it with a gift to her. You don’t have to tell her what you’re celebrating, but tell yourself. If you’re not used to celebration, you might wonder what exactly I mean. Consider this equation: CELEBRATION = APPRECIATION + ACTION. CELEBRATION IS APPRECIATION IN ACTION. My coach Jean-Pierre LeBlanc turned me on to this simple and powerful realization during a group call. I understood the power of appreciation, but conscious celebration was less familiar. Now it has become second nature (thank you Jean-Pierre)! It’s easy to get hooked into fixating on all the problems in your relationship, the things you don’t like. This can become habitual, until subconsciously you believe that there are only problems to be fixed, only deficits. You’re familiar with the law of attraction? What you focus your attention on expands. What you appreciate… appreciates. Well, CELEBRATION is like APPRECIATION to the power of ten because it includes ACTION. And because you are a human being with a masculine core, action is a potent synergist for whatever you find inspiring in Her. Here it is in four easy steps:
Imagine this - All of your life being a celebration… your appreciation in action. No more re-acting against, or numbing out. Pure celebration. What would your life be like? What would the world be like? It’s possible. Start where you are. Start today. Here’s a CHALLENGE, and an opportunity to MAKE IT REAL and MAKE IT STRONGER: Share your celebration with our readers. Tell us WHAT you choose to celebrate in your woman, HOW you will celebrate it, and WHEN. Or share your stories of past celebration and the effect it had. My hope is to see hundreds of men step up to this challenge and encourage other men with their ideas and stories of actively, consciously, celebrating their women. Please share.
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I was excited to see your “Celebrate…” post. It fits very well with the sermon I heard this morning at my church. Part of the message was that we, as humans, are far too inclined towards criticism, and we are also extremely sensitive to it, making it very easy to remember only the negative things we hear, allowing those comments to outweigh the positive feedback we receive. The challenge, as you say, is to focus on the positive traits of our spouse. I know my hubby and I both feel committed to work on this in the coming weeks. In the mean time, I am celebrating my hubby at http://www.heavenlyhubbies.com!
People laugh when we say that the secret of our happy marriage is that my husband kisses me at least 37 times a day. But that’s only a slight exaggeration! He never kisses me once if there’s time to kiss me five times. It’s goofy, but it’s part of his over-the-top celebration of us. And we’re not newlyweds … this has been going on for 12 years so far and we’re both over 50. Maybe it’s because marrying relatively late, we both were so delighted to find each other.